March 23, 2017

Finding a balance from broken to beautiful

Trauma Healing Challenge: Day 22
Today's challenge is about finding a balance in beauty. For so long I hid behind things on the outside to cover up my pain on the inside. Then I went the opposite extreme and tried to just focus on healing the inside . . . all the while forgetting what made me feel beautiful on the outside.

So today's challenge is all about figuring out where you are on that scale, after trauma has left you forgetting your confidence, and finding a balance to go from broken to beautiful. Confidence takes balance. And beauty can be found on the outside . . . and in. It is when those two align, that we find our confidence again. You cannot have one without the other.

So wether you are hiding behind gallons of makeup and thousands of dollars in high heels . . . or you are hiding in your fifteen year old track sweats and haven't left your house since last week, I hope you know you are not crazy, and you are not alone. I have been there, and so have thousands of others.

Today, even though you never asked me to . . . I give you permission to find what makes you feel beautiful on the outside, and whole on the inside . . . and see if those two working together can bring back the person you thought was lost.

To check out the makeup I am using in this video visit:
Maskcara beauty

March 17, 2017

Good news . . . Eastern Idaho. This is going down for real. 

A Reason to Stand: Fighting for Me
Rexburg, Idaho
The Atrium at Hemming Village
Friday, April 21st

Eventbrite - A Reason to Stand: Rexburg, Idaho April 21st

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March 15, 2017

Day 21

The power of taking some time for you. No guilt. No check lists...getting centered for others by allowing yourself some time to relax and do something you enjoy. We become better for others by showing ourselves we are worth some time too. Challenge: do something for you today...that you enjoy...on purpose. Guilt free time to get centered so you can be your best self.

March 14, 2017

"Hot Rod" "Rad" Dad and Day 20

So we are on day 20. Your challenge is to laugh. To search it out. To find something funny around you and allow yourself to engage in it.

So many times in and after trauma we begin to believe we are not allowed to laugh and enjoy life any more. So whether your laughter has stopped because you don't think you deserve to laugh any more . . . or if you just have forgotten how. It is time to learn how, and remember what it is that made you laugh . . . and seek it out.

The family and I were on a Family Night walk last night. At one point Shawn put on a helmet and started riding a scooter . . . to which this movie was born.

Enjoy . . . and let yourself laugh.

Marsy's Law

If you want to know more about the Victims Rights law I have been speaking out about visit . . .
Victims Rights Marsys law

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March 11, 2017

March 11th

Today was six years since my kids lost their dad. 
Yesterday I stood in front of a group of senators— asking them to remember our babies as they evaluate an amendment to the constitution that would help victims have rights. One thing I know for hard it is to watch your babies hurt, and have nothing you can do about it. 
Last year these five helped me create this video for a friend who had lost their dad. I always thought I would be able to give my babies a perfect world—but instead they have given me hope that good can still exist after the world let's you fall. 
March 11, 2011 you didn't break them. They are fighters. They have never been victims. To me they were always the strongest survivors.


An article I wrote was published on Family Share today!!!

March 10, 2017

Day 19

How do we change? We step outside of what we are used to and take some risks. Sometimes it is our comfort zone that is holding us back from where we want to be.

Day 18 Trauma Healing Challenge

Day 18 is all about sacrificing and intent. A tool that I once thought was just a sacrifice, has in many ways become a great blessing.

March 9, 2017

Victim's Rights

I have got to be honest . . . this interview made me a little sad. Mainly because I wished that everything we talked about could have been aired . . . because this law is about so much more to our state than March 11, 2011. 

This law to be passed is not about my story. It is about everyone. Without my story I wouldn't know what it felt like to be a victim in a courtroom, and I wouldn't have so much passion to why I feel that victims need laws that protect them. I know there are many who have suffered silently wishing that their story was important, or that their pain was relevant. 

So tomorrow I get to take a stand, tell parts of my story that I haven't talked much about. The trial and being a victim of a case. But my goal tomorrow isn't for me to have a voice, it is to stand for a voice for those who have not been heard, or who one day will wish they were. 

Sadly . . . that could be any one of us. 

Tomorrow at 8am during the Senate State Affairs at the Idaho Capital Building I hope that my voice makes a difference . . . not for me, but for others who may some day stand where I have been. 

Last weeks interview about victims rights:

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