My name is Ashlee. Five years ago, just two months after the birth of my fifth child, my husband was murdered by the husband of a secret mistress. To say I was broken hearted would be an understatement. I was humiliated, scared, and broken to my core. For two years I faked life. I lived half alive. Then one day, not long after the month long murder trial that didn't bring the healing I had waited for . . . I took a breath. I looked around and realized that I had become a victim. I began to plead with God to set me free. Many months later a blog was born. "The Moments We Stand". Each post became an escape of the hidden pain. Each story remembered a blessing of grace to a broken heart. As I wrote my story I remembered it differently. Those times I felt alone all the sudden I could see grace...and knew that God was there.
Two years later I am the author of two books. The Moments We Stand: Silence Breaks, and The Moments We Stand: Out of the Shadows. I am the founder of A Reason to Stand, a healing conference for survivors of trauma (which by my definition trauma is a moment where your life didn't go according to your plan and you were filled with lies about who you now had to be)
I love life. I love living it with a purpose and meaning. I love helping people find their connection to God and the mission He sent them to earth to fulfill.
My name is Ashlee. I am a mother. I am a daughter. I am a sister. I am an average girl whose dream has always been to be a mother and a wife. I have always craved a simple life, one of peace and happiness. I am a planner. I have always planned on my simple desire for life. I have learned that you can not always plan. I have come to find out that not every one who dreams of a simple life will be granted it as such. I am a "victim" of murder. I am a victim of infidelity. I am not alone in this sentence. I have had the privilege of raising my children and helping 5 other little "victims" find faith in a world that on a cold night in March left them with none. This is how we found light in a place that went dark all around us. How I learned to see a garden of beauty even when all felt lost. I hope that our story and the lessons we have learned can bring peace to at least one other struggling to find answers in their lives, and in turn help us find the peace that we continually seek. I got my degree in child development and human relationships from Utah State University with the hope in helping others through their hard times. I have had more people help me through mine. I used to consider myself a parenting expert... boy was I wrong. Through everything my kids have gone through..they have taught me way more than I could have ever taught them. They have been the little Angels that have pulled me to a brighter hour. They have given me hope and purpose. We have been on a journey of healing, searching for peace. Thanks for listening.
Ashlee Birk is the Author of the blog and book series entitled The Moments We Stand. In them she tells of her personal journey of healing and seeking peace after the murder of her husband Emmett.
On March 11, 2011 Emmett was shot and killed in a Walgreens parking lot by the husband of a secret mistress. Ashlee was made a widow at the age of 28 with 5 children—the youngest being just six weeks old.
Her husband’s death left her with many messes to clean up—the hardest being her own broken soul as well as five others. She spent hours with detectives, Emmett’s business, a month long murder trial, and therapists . . . trying to piece together the broken pieces of the past. None of which helped her feel whole.
Through her trials she has learned the importance of a personal relationship with her Father in Heaven. She has witnessed many miracles through the devastation of so much heartache. She has found light in the darkest of moments—and she has found hope when she thought it was lost. It is through Christ that true healing has come.
Ashlee’s story is very unique. As she has learned to embrace it, she has gained a greater testimony of the Atonement of Jesus Christ and the strength it can be in her story. She has come to find that the grace of Christ is powerful—not only in sin—but also in forgiveness and carrying you through some of your darkest moments. She has felt the embrace of her Heavenly Father through every obstacle. The tender mercies have given her hope to stand tall and write a new story. A story that has been very different than the one she had always dreamed.
Ashlee is remarried and with her husband Shawn raising their blended family of six children. They work hard every day to continue their journey of peace and finding the joy in life. Ashlee believes that every day is a gift—and in each one, she has learned to stand.